As I stated in this post, one of the three goals I intend to reach whiting 14th March 2017 is:
- be a more seductive person
To me, being a seductive person is not really about clothes or makeup, but I thought that starting with clothes and makeup might have worked for me, since a good wardrobe and a well equipped beauty case could increase your self confidence. So I started to read blogs about style. I identified my body shape. I asked the assistance of an expert to find my colour season. I purchased a large sample of peculiar perfumes to better understand how my skin reacts to natural fragrances, since synthetic ones give me headache.
And I am not a bit more seductive. Why?
First, now that I theoretically know what I need, I can’t put myself to buy anything. All that analysis paralyzed me. Besides, sorting out something that flatters me by all its features – colour, texture, shape, style, prize – among all the different choices that fashion proposes needs a lot of motivation.
Second, seduction does not comes from self-confidence. Seduction is born from desire. To be seductive, you must desire. You are not seductive just by being at peace and self confident. I believe a buddhist monk in meditation is a person at peace and confident, but not seductive. Not because of his looks, because he does not desire. If you really desire something or someone, you will find the needed confidence to make the first step.
When I was a young lady, I really wanted someone by my side to call mine. From time to time, I was trying to win the love of a specific guy or looking for a new partner. Now that I am in a stable and loving relationship my desire is weak. It might sound strange, but if you don’t believe me, ask some married couples. You share affection, love, time and experiences with your partner. Sometimes seduction falls out of the scenery.
But I am not FINE with that. What can I do? Two things are helping me:
- this TED Talk by Mel Robbins
And you? What is your way to be seductive? Meanwhile, thank you for your time.