After a sudden pause, about three weeks ago I resumed meditating every morning and one day, I found myself crying on the porridge pot while I was thinking about my parents. I didn’t understand immediately why I was doing it, but I was imaging to speak with them, telling them all the things I had buried inside myself over the years and I couldn’t stop crying. It was not a cry out of relief or joy for all the good things we shared. I was crying for all the harm they have done to me. I think that meditation brought to the surface the ugly truth about my childhood and that, previously, I had stopped meditating to avoid this discovery.
After I’ve dried my tears, I wrote a post searching for help on a Facebook group full of fantastic people, MakeItUltra Discussion Group, and the moderator commented my post, pointing me in the right direction. That morning, I discovered the work of Dr Judy Rosenberg, founder and clinical director of the Psychological Healing Center, and started to read one of her books: “Be The Cause: Healing Human Disconnect”. I read the entire book in a couple of days, taking notes and following its nine-step program. Since the book is helping me overcoming the wounds of my childhood, I am here writing a short review for you.
At the core of the book, there’s the concept of Human Disconnect, which Dr Judy also calls “the hole in the soul”. It’s that disheartening sensation of emptiness and isolation that haunts many of us, causing anxiety, depression. The book centres around a scheme with nine panels, the Mind Map, which is a nine-panel journey from the wounds of your past, through dismantling the cause of your current negative beliefs, to paradigm shifting into your future health.
After a general introduction which defines the object of the book, its structure and explains the Mind Map, each chapter focuses on one of the nine panels in more detail. Dr Judy shows the panel, clarifies the meaning of its visuals and escort the reader through its exploration, giving also examples of her program at work on several case histories. At the end of each chapter, there’s a helpful section called “Think like a shrink: connecting the dots”, which resumes the main points of the chapter and can be used as a reference book to navigate the healing process.
Dr Judy has an approach that is at the same time pragmatic and compassionate. The book is easy to follow, well written, and keeps its focus from begin to end. It helped me remove a lot of weight from my shoulder and it’s helping me facing the day by day healing process. Even if the book addresses the issue of early childhood disconnect it doesn’t point its finger against the parents. Even if it confirmed some bitter realisations about my parents, it didn’t fill my heart with hatred. As strange as it may sound, reading this book filled me with joy for the possibilities that await me, now that I am distancing myself from my negative old core beliefs and I am discovering what I truly am. And you? Are you curious to look at the Mind Map and start your journey? In the meanwhile, allow me to greet you with the same quote which opens this wonderful book:
“Wherever there is a human being,
there is an opportunity for a kindness.”
Lucius Annaeus Seneca